START WITH WHY
I recently read the book "Start with Why" by Simon Sinek. It was an eye opening read. While I always subconsciously work from a stand point of "why", I tend to operate from a stand point of "what."
The biggest takeaway I got from the book is the first step in anything you want to do needs to be driven by your "why." When you can get clear on "why" it's not a task or punishment to achieve. It's a mission, a focus and self driving force within you.
Here are a few quick tips to consider when starting towards a goal:
1. Hash out a crystal clear written explanation of what you want. That means pick up a pen or open an Evernote app and write it down. Be exhaustive about the details. "I want to lose weight" does not cut it. Give me details.
2. Get clear on why you're doing it. You actually may find your real reason isn't worth it.
3. If the reason moves you write it down. This is your reminder when things get hard. When you find the real why a reminder is helpful.
Setting goals should be more than something you put on your vision board or post on Instagram. Discovering your real why will help you achieve what you actually say you want. Find that why!
Subscribe to my Instagram for exclusive content, updates and many more! Click HERE to join.
SIGN UP FOR FREE RECIPES straight to your inbox HERE
My “why” is self-esteem.
Here is the why of my “why” : For the past 10 years I’ve used food as a coping mechanism due to sexual violence, emotional violence, spiritual violence, low self-esteem, failed relationship and the absence of a father figure in my life. My father was there but wasn’t there, He used to travel a lot due to his job and I wasn’t aware for most of my childhood and even some part of my young adult life, how much it affected me , until 4 years ago. I sat down and analysed my life choices, every move have been made in an attempt to find that father figure in all my relationships (friendship, spiritual, love). And I find my refuge in food eating to relieve stress and feel better for a short period of time, spending all my time in front of screens (TV, Phone laptop) to avoid to do the real work, no need to say that I’ve gained 90lbs in the process. This need to change started a few years ago when I decided to give it a try and give me a chance to change my life but I wasn’t consistent. For a few months I would feel great and positive, lose 20 pounds, eat healthy and the rest of the year I just get back to the old me. But last year a shift occurred, I was in a on and off relationship for 12 years waiting after a man to accept me and for him to realise that I am the woman of his life, pleasing him in every way possible to have his approbation (Daddy issue) But after 12 yrs I figure that I wasn’t ready emotionally and he wasn’t either so I broke off the relationship and decide to focus on me…wasn’t easy, still isn’t, but I declare this year to be the year of “ME”, because I am now ready to do the work and heal properly and I know that taking care of my vessel, my body and what I do with it, and what I put in it will be a great way to start. I just need to be consistent and I Know I can and I will. Thx Chef Jumoké for this platform, ad the support system….I really want to see it through and to reveal to myself the amazing person that I am.
This is my “why”
Sorry it’s a lil bit on the long side, and sorry for the grammatical mistakes, I am trying lol, English is my second language lol
Raïssa
My “why” is health… I am extremely busy and I often don’t eat consistently because of it. I tend to prefer healthier choices, but they aren’t easily acessible or I end up spending a lot eating out.
Lack of proper nutrition leaves me more mentally and physically exhausted than normal, retaining weight for my body’s fear of being starved, and battling GERD. I do eat, but in the worst of cases, after running and running, it is whatever is easily accessible- a protein bar, vending snacks, or something that takes 2 min to prepare.
I know how well my body feels when I eat well, and consistently.
Meal prep will help me eliminate the no time excuse, and get me back on track.
My “why” is health… I am extremely busy and I often don’t eat because of it. I tend to prefer healthier choices, but they aren’t easily acessible or I end up spending a lot eating out.
Lack of proper nutrition leaves me more mentally and physically exhausted than normal, retaining weight for my body’s fear of being starved, and battling GERD. I do eat, but in the worst of cases, after running and running, it is whatever is easily accessible- a protein bar, vending snacks, or something that takes 2 min to prepare.
I know how well my body feels when I eat well, and consistently.
Meal prep will help me eliminate the no time excuse, and get me back on track.
My reason is it’s easier for me to have something ready. It helps me not stress over what I’m eating for the next few days and it help me track my calories better.